Rhoda’s Rules For Dying and Why You Need to Know

You’ve heard the news. actress Valerie Harper aka Rhoda Morganstern on the Mary Tyler Moore show has been diagnosed with a terminal rare form of brain Imagecancer and may have only three months to live.

What would YOU do? How would you act if you knew your days were numbered? Would you begin crossing things off your bucket list?

1. Find the positive. Instead of bemoaning her lot asking why me? Valerie has found the joy in her situation. Yes, that’s right. Joy. She has been overwhelmingly touched by the outpouring of love and support from thousands of people everywhere. In her own words: “I want to tell people how supportive and loving and exciting it is to feel this in the here and now and that’s it.  This is the joy of it.  If I was gone you’d be having memorials.  This way we can share back and forth.”

2. Move through fear. As a professional motivational speaker I get to speak to all kinds of groups about being fearless: from professional admins, healthcare workers & nurses, to HR directors, corporate employees, and small business owners.  I talk about taking risks and one small step towards a personal or professional goal i.e. make more money, change careers, take up a hobby, get healthy, make new friends. It’s about overcoming fear and self doubt and adopting an attitude of  ‘I can’ –  learning new ways of working and living to be happy. Valerie Harper decided to go public with her illness because I want people to be less scared.” I want them to know the new realm of cancer: that you can die with cancer but not of it.” Valerie Harper & Mary Tyler Moore

3. Never lose hope. I recently spoke to the American Heart Association at their Go Red For Women fundraiser in Montana and the common thread among survivors that spoke before me and the audience that contributed generously was: hope. There’s always hope of a cure, a new opportunity for success, meeting your soul mate, losing the weight, winning The Voice (OK, you need some singing talent for that one) Valerie Harper’s  doctor said her cancer is  incurable “so far’” and she said “I love that, not a shred, but a possibility.  We all need to live in infinite possibility.”

Take Rhoda’s advice and live fully NOW. Quit waiting for the kids to graduate, social security to kick in, the dream job fairy to wave her wand. DO something!

Live like you were dying…….because you are.

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