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FEWER FACTS, GREATER FEAR: Can You Put A Price On Hope?

March 26, 2014

The mystery disappearance Malaysia-airplane with question markof Malaysia Flight 370 deepened as days went by. Relatives of those on board were steeped in grief and growing frustration with no information on what happened. Global eyes focused on Western Australia where the latest piece of potential debris was spotted off the coast of Perth.

There was hope.

The Malaysian government has since revealed data confirming the plane sank with no survivors. The grief stricken relatives now begin the long painful journey of healing their loss.

Hopes are dashed. But as one relative put it: “At least we have an answer. We have closure”. Now the hope is for some kind of peace and comfort moving forward.
ExxonMobil IAAP center stageRecently I spoke to a group of professional administrators at a spring conference (you know, the people who REALLY run the organization). They worked for different companies ranging from healthcare to the oil industry. Their concerns were the same: they all needed to learn new software programs.Most of them expressed fear of competency under the pressure of working for two or more bosses. Those that had mastered the new system reassured the others “it gets easier the more you know”.

Ignorance is not bliss. Knowledge is power. Hope is priceless.

My prayer is that the victims’ families regain hope for the future and happiness going forward. God bless each and every one of them.

Are You Headed For Prison?

April 18, 2013

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The Boston Marathon bombings have shaken
each of us to our core and left us wondering where it will all end….
Once again fear is at the forefront of the news.
 
As a motivational speaker for business groups at meetings and conferences, I talk alot about being fearless – taking risks to succeed at work and be happy in life. Fear can make us a prisoner of our imagination.
 
Terrorists are yellow-bellied cowards filled with hate and fear of anyone not like them. Chances are you don’t know one.
 
North Korea’s leader Kim Jong Un is trying to prove himself using provocative nuclear and missile actions. Odds are you’ll never meet him.

Know-It-All Dictator Boss
doesn’t leave room for disagreements out of a sense of personal insecurity, arrogance, or both. The loyalty of the few cronies he or she has is built on fear, and so it isn’t authentic friendship. You may be familiar with this one.
 
I believe people’s insecurities show up as aggression, shyness, controversy, aloofness, arrogance, bullying, incessant chatter, rudeness, and otherwise unwanted traits.

At the essence of this defense mechanism behavior is the fear of not being good enough. The common result? Isolation, emotional instability, unhappiness.

The first step to solving a problem is to admit it exists. Do you see any of these traits in anyone you know? Errr, yes….especially if you take a look in the mirror.

Don’t let fear build walls around your ability to live, laugh, love and be happy.

Love like you’ve never been hurt, dance like there’s nobody watching, yada yada yada…

Is this your idea of a whale of a good time?

March 5, 2013
                                                                  whale
No. The diver is not headless. His head is below the bubbles inside the wet suit and I wonder what he was thinking right at this moment? 
My guess is it had nothing to do with world peace, the price of gas or the latest on Jay Lenno.

During my motivational keynote speeches on being fearless and taking risks to experience more success and happiness in life, I talk about the worst day of my life when I was laid off from an office job living far away from my home town in Australia as a young woman. I was petrified. The country was in a recession and the economic outlook was as bleak as it’s been here in America for the past four years.
Go Red laughing side on
My first instinct was to call my parents 1,000 miles away.
george Halfway through dialing I realized they would just tell me to come home and I’d be right back where I started. My hopes and dreams of traveling the world, working on a professional stage and dating George Clooney would be dashed.
(OK, so one of those dreams was a fantasy)I hung up the phone and that pivotal moment changed my whole life. 

Long story short, I grabbed an opportunity to play the piano in a posh Sydney hotel with no experience, a repertoire of 50 songs (mostly Beatles) and a tummy full of nerves. And poof! A star was born (lol)

Last week on TV’s reality show The Biggest Loser, there was a man afraid of swimming because of all the unseen dangers lurking below the water. After shedding many pounds and gaining considerable confidence, the man decided to face his fear and go swimming in the ocean (with a guide in nearby boat). He emerged on shore a changed man.

LESSON: Let go fear of things you can’t control.
Whether it’s the economy, other people or big fish.

Take small steps towards things you CAN control to realize your dreams/goals:
Lose weight, change jobs, venture out, meet new people,
Take a class, join a club, learn a language,
Swim with sharks.

Have a whale of a good time.

Aha! For A Second, Change For A Lifetime

February 5, 2013
 
                                                 HADOA
I’m off to speak in Montana….
where I hear it’s a tad chilly.
OK. It’s freakin’ freezing!
Out with the faux fur.
 
February is national heart month and the American Heart Association is hosting a slew of Go Red For Women events across the country. I’m the luncheon speaker at the Billings chapter where 350 women are attending the fundraiser.
 
Did you know that heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women in the USA? (yes, more than cancer)
 
The half day event includes workshops on healthcare, exhibitors and survivors sharing their stories. Then it’s my turn….
 montanaThey hired me to supercharge the energy in the room and close the event on a positive note.
 
For 30 minutes the audience is going to forget their problems and focus on possibilities. For 30 minutes they’re going to be uplifted, entertained, inspired and educated. After 30 minutes they’re going to leave happy they attended and hopeful for the future.
 
Thirty minutes isn’t very long to plant seeds for a lifetime – but it only takes one aha! moment to be a game changer for one person.
 
Gotta be grateful for my life, my health and my gifts that I get to share in such awesome ways.
 
Look out Montana……you’re about to get a whole lot of hot stuff!

ARE YOU GAME?

January 29, 2013
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Sloane Stephens

The Australian Open is over.                                           Some dreams were dashed,  others fulfilled.

For 19 year old Sloane Stephens a dream came true.

Can you possibly imagine what it would be like to not only meet your idol but compete against her on the same court while the world watched? What would be going on in your mind?

Mine would be mush with fear.

On the morning that Sloane Stephens was to play against the legendary Serena Williams, she woke up and said to herself: “I can do this”. That’s a bold and fearless attitude for such a young player. And she did. Sloane beat her idol and earned herself a place in the top 20 tennis players of the world. It didn’t matter she didn’t win the Australian Open. She won something more valuable: self confidence.

What’s devil angelYOUR dream? Have you got a bucket list of things you’d like to do? Is there a voice in your head saying why you’ll never accomplish any of them?

In a recent after dinner speech I told the story of how eighteen months ago I walked into the Memorial Park Tennis Center in Houston and asked if they had group lessons. I hadn’t stepped foot on a tennis court for 30 years and I was terrified of making a complete fool of myself…….especially since the other women in the class were all perky young girls of 25.

Do you know how annoying perky young girls are???  They run fast, they jump high, they don’t sweat, puff or pant. Aaaargh!Theresa tennis small!!                                           

Fast forward to now….I’m playing five times/week, having a ball (literally), meeting great new people, feeling vibrantly alive and energetic and those perky young girls are nowhere to be seen.
             
Watch out for negative self talk. It can cost you life’s most precious gift: Happiness.

Game, set, match.

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You and Betty White

September 17, 2012

If you don’t recognize this face you’re obviously not living on  planet  earth…….. Betty White is amazing. If this is what 90 looks like bring it on Baby! A busy actress, animal activist and author, Betty said the scariest thing she ever did was host Saturday Night Live which probably sounds weird to  ‘normal’ folks outside of show biz. How could someone so talented be nervous or afraid?

As a professional motivational speaker on workplace performance in Texas and around the country, I can tell you every time I’m about to step on stage at a conference or special event I get the proverbial butterflies in the proverbial tummy. Regardless of many years experience, it’s the norm.

“Top performers like Betty White move through the fear and do it anyway because fear is what you pass on the way to success.”

  • Are you terrified of that new software?
  • Do you dread giving a sales presentation?
  • Is the very thought of learning a new process so scary you’re paralyzed?

Change is the only true constant. Perception is often worse than reality. Take one baby step at a time and watch how your fear dissolves.

Who knows? Maybe YOU’LL end up in a super bowl candy commercial at 88 years old.

 

The Unpopular Prescription for Good Health

September 6, 2012

As a frequent professional speaker and entertainer for healthcare events in Houston and around the country, I’m constantly amazed at how playing live music transforms people on the spot…

Today I delivered a 45 minute musical program for an Alzheimers group with ages ranging from 55 – 94 years old. Some shuffled in with walkers, others were wheeled in by care givers, while some walked slowly without assistance. They sat expectantly with blank stares looking straight ahead.

Within minutes of playing an empassioned version of  The Impossible Dream, I felt the energy in the room shift to a new level of alive.  After their enthusiastic applause, they sang along to Hello Dolly, shouted answers to musical trivia questions, clapped in tempo to Glen Miller’s In The Mood and ended up dancing to New York New York.  The mood contrast from beginning to end was like day and night!

The miracle is that some of these people can’t remember their own name, yet they knew every word to songs written 50 years ago. For 45 minutes this seniors group came alive with the vibrancy of their youth. Their eyes shone, their toes tapped and their smiles radiated complete well being.

No drugs. No worries.

What if doctors prescribed musical activities versus mind altering drugs for the vulnerable aging population ? What if the healthcare industry embraced alternative action to pharmeceuticals? Oh wait. That wouldn’t be FDA approved.  Silly me.

If you’re the Baby Boomer caregiver of an aging parent, consider an inexpensive way to put a smile on their face and a twinkle in their eye…

Music –  it’s what the doctor SHOULD have ordered.

View this video to see how you can help someone you love:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKDXuCE7LeQ&feature=share

Who’s Looking At You?

August 15, 2012
 
flagThe Olympics are over. All the buzz and excitement of international competition is gone. Compelling stories of athletes overcoming adversity, failures and triumphs are already fading.
Feels kinda sorta like a downer, right?                                   
Merry Ole England did a bang up job of hosting the 2012 games. The royals were out and about, security was a success, traffic was smooth, athletes commented on how very polite the Brits were (natch Daaahling!) and they even built a special ‘Olympic Park’ at the airport terminal for departing visitors. By Joves, I say that’s a jolly nice touch, eh what?
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Closing ceremonies were quite spectacular, did you think? That is, after the opening vocalist, (whoever she was) singing a bunch of flat notes. You’d have thought it was me – and that’s not a good thing.
 
My favorite part was how singers performed while being chauffered around the stadium in a parade of Rolls Royces (my future car).
Pictured here are The Spice Girls giving it their best shot in front of a global audience of 300 million.                                                                           

Wearing the ‘gold’ from 2006 Torino Olympics

 
So what now?
 
Motivation to be great comes easy when you know the world is watching.   
 
Motivation to be great at work? Not so much.
 
As a motivational speaker at conferences I talk about how top performers give it their best shot all the time because excellence has become a habit.
 
Who’s looking?
 
 
Your customers/boss/team/colleagues/vendors/family/friends.
 
Go the extra mile. Bring home the gold.
  
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Your Olympic Best

August 8, 2012

Dale and police

Studies show the average employee wastes two hours a day on personal business like Facebook etc. That equals about three months of lost productivity per year, per person. Ouch!
 
As a motivational speaker on extraordinary Work Performance I explain how top performers go above and beyond what they’re asked to do by their bosses/clients to exceed expectations and succeed in today’s competitive market.
 
Extraordinary is the new norm in the 2012 workplace.
 
Extraordinary has always been the norm to win gold at the Olympics.
 
Pictured here holding the Olympic torch with police escort prior to the 2000 games Down Under, is my Aussie gal pal Dale Krieg Knappstein. Dale was a swimmer in the 1960 Olympics in Rome and here’s what she said last week during a speech she gave to an elementary school in Adelaide, South Australia:
 
“You have to be extraordinary to win.
  
7 billion people in the world                                     
19 days of competition
10,500 athletes
26 different sports
205 countries represented
302 gold medals

Out of all the people in the world the odds of getting the gold are almost an impossibility.

I came home from Rome without a medal. I felt I had failed my family and my country. Many years later I figured out that at the time, I was one of the top ten 100 meters freestyle swimmers in the world. That’s not bad! Now I’m older I realize that I didn’t fail. I gave it my best shot, others were just better.

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From right: Dale Krieg, top Australian athlete Dawn Fraser & coach Harry Gallagher

Today let’s celebrate the dedication and sacrifices needed to become an Olympian.

Then let’s celebrate all the people in this world who give it their best. Not just in sport but in every human endeavour.  We can’t all have gold, silver or bronze medals. (Hey – nothing wrong with silver and bronze!) but we can all give it our best and if we do, this world will be a better place.”

It sure sounds like the USA would be a better place if we all did our personal best at work.

Maybe then all the stuff at Walmart would be labeled

“Made in America”.

Watch This At Work

July 16, 2012
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Can you pick me out of this line up?
 
These are some members of Team Toto. They’re a great group of people from all walks of life and we enjoy playing tennis Tuesday nights at Memorial Park in Houston. Toto is the team captain pictured in the green shirt and is named such  ‘coz he’s an immigrant from Kansas with a great sense of humor (at least he did until he reads this).
 
I belong to four different tennis groups and play five times a week. You could say I’m addicted to the game. Ya’ think?
 
One time I was playing doubles opposite a man who is extremely competitive and hates to lose. Ten minutes into the game he began yelling at his partner about how to play, berating her for a lost point, putting her down and arguing scores with all of us.
 
And just like that the atmosphere changed from fun to dread.
 
Have you ever experienced that yukky awkward feeling in the pit of your stomach? Watch this at work. One person’s attitude can totally change the dynamics of a team/meeting/office. Organizations wanting to build a strong team culture need to nip these kind of energy-suckers in the bud by enforcing a ‘shape up or ship out’ policy.
 
2012 picAs a professional speaker on High Performance in the workplace, I talk about how a positive can-do attitude boosts teamwork, builds great relationships, increases productivity and elevates customer service that ultimately impacts the bottom line.
 
Everybody wins.
 
Tennis continues to be a ton of fun……I just don’t play with HIM any more.
 
His loss.