Posts Tagged ‘job’

Why Failure IS an Option

September 15, 2014
I just read a blog on ‘Embracing Failure’. Sounds weird, right?

Not so fast….          

One survey found  the happiest people are often those who have learned how to fail.  They’ve learned how to pick themselves back up after being knocked down, reflect on the experience, grow from it, and push on. The net result  is that people are paying more and more attention to the process instead of just the outcome.

Taking a systematic look at the process that has led many to their success, one of the common elements among them is the resilience they exhibited when things weren’t going their way.

How resilient are you? Do you give up too soon?

Failure becomes a problem when people are too afraid to take risks because they dread consequences that  may not ever happen.

And so they stay stuck. Stuck in a job they hate, a relationship that’s toxic or an unhealthy lifestyle.

Organizations that encourage innovation and calculated risks end up success stories like Apple and Virgin Air.

In my motivational speeches I use an example of making mistakes (some in front of celebrities like Andrew Lloyd Webber – see video HERE) and what I learned from the embarrassing experience. CROPPED Photo shoot The Forum Jan 2014 034

Using major mess ups as life lessons and stepping stones is key to success.  In my case it resulted in touring the world solo on a piano bench ending up here in the good ‘ol US of A (yay!)

Instead of allowing fear of failure to be an obstacle, I used it as motivation to survive. 

C;mon. What’s stopping you from taking a leap into the unknown? You never know …… you may just like it.


Are You Willing To Make A Difference?

June 11, 2014

Being a professional motivational  speaker has its ups and downs just like any otherAHA indiana - audience job……but unlike other jobs there is one MAJOR plus to speaking in front of audiences like these 450 attendees at the Go Red for Women luncheon in Merrillville, Indiana recently:

Instant gratification.

My program was “Fifty Shades of Red: Keys to Living Life Large!” and one point is about taking risks to experience new people and things to live a vibrant healthy happy life. The audience consisted of stroke survivors, people with heart disease, their friends and families, together with supporters of the American Heart Association who hosts this annual fundraiser.                                                                     AHA Indiana - Theresa acknowledging audience applause

Long after I left the stage in a state of high energy exhilaration from the enthusiastic response, a woman approached to talk to me alone. Her demeanor was somewhat shy and hesitant as she said:

Thank you for making a difference in my life. Your words seemed like they were meant especially for me. I suffer from panic attacks when I have to be around a lot of people and I nearly didn’t come today. But I made it. And now I know why. I was meant to hear what you said about being fearless in taking risks to live fully and be happy. I’m so glad I came.” There were tears in her eyes.

And that’s why I do this.

You may not be so lucky as to reap immediate rewards for your work but you CAN make a difference in someone’s life.

You can reach out, uplift, encourage, praise, compliment, help, smile at one person each day. You may never know how much they needed something nice right at that moment.

Making a difference is a win/win deal… reap what you sow.

Trashy, Sleazy, Desperate: What Would You Do To Get Noticed?

September 6, 2013
Robin Thicke & Miley Cyrus

It was the talk of Twitter,
the buzz of the moment,
a media frenzy….
Miley Cyrus’s performance at the Video Music Awards was nothing short of shocking. 

With her lewd gestures, tongue out, half naked, Miley showed the world she is no longer the Disney channel girl who was adored by millions of teens.

 Talk about a brand change.

 In my motivational speeches on Extraordinary Performance I talk about what it takes to reach the next level of success and how we need to keep learning and changing the way we work. In today’s competitive market we need to stand out from the crowd to get the job/client and keep the job/client.

Does this mean we have to strip off our clothes and act vulgar?     (OK, don’t answer that)

Successful people don’t need to shock anyone. They are self confident, open minded yet consistent with their brand/image.

Miley Cyrus looked like she wanted to win the sleaze award at VMA to outdo Lady Gaga and the all star line up.  

Or was she just desperate for attention?

Grab the attention of your boss/client by delivering excellence. Every time. Every interaction. Every day.  

 Now THAT’S Extraordinary Performance that won’t make the tabloids but WILL get you noticed……………… a good way. 

Make Nice, Make Money

May 8, 2013
Motivational speaker Theresa Behenna speaks on being fearless to realize more success in your life. This blog from Fast Company tells the story of one man’s courage to reach out to strangers for help…
Cap Watkins is now the design lead at Etsy, but before that he was a lonesome Louisiana-bred web designer living in Oakland, working from home and not knowing a soul outside his small startup.

 Then something changed: He decided to meet creative folks in San Francisco.

 “I did the only thing I could think of,” he writes, “I made a list of web sites I thought were well-designed, figured out who designed them, and sent a cold email to the designer telling them I was a new designer in the area and asking if they’d like to get coffee or a beer sometime.”

He sent between 20 and 30 emails. He got one reply.
Daniel Burka, who was then the creative director at Digg, said sure, he’d love to grab coffee. Coffee turned into rock climbing, which turned into a cascade of introductions and friendships. Whether he knew it or not, Burka had facilitated a ton of relationships.
When someone asks you to lunch (or rock climbing), say yes.

“Suddenly I wasn’t all alone in Oakland anymore,” Watkins writes.

Though he’d be let go from this startup job a few months later, he had friends who could help him find contract work while he sought out a full-time gig. Eventually he was introduced to the folks at Zoosk, and suddenly he was “off to the races,” designing products for millions. And after that, Formspring, Amazon, and Etsy.

The lessons

Watkins writes that he gets “overwhelmed by feelings of gratitude” when he thinks on all the people who helped him–though they totally didn’t have to. So now he answers those cold email messages that come his way every so often–that was him, then.

There’s a lot to be learned from his story:  

  • As 99u observes, when you’re kind to people–and thus open up opportunities–you can change their lives.
  • You need a lot of hustle–and coffee dates–to be let into any industry.
  • Kindness is a form of networking. 
  • As John A. Daly writes in Advocacy, when someone asks you to lunch (or rock climbing) say yes.

Be kind.